GMR 102: A System for Lifelong Success Part 2
Episode 102
All of us are searching for a way to achieve happiness and fulfillment. We all desire to do well in every area of our lives. If only there were a system, like the bumper rails in bowling, that would help us avoid the gutters that so often hinder our progress. In this episode of GMR, we continue our conversation with Christopher Missimo, a licensed therapist who has developed a structure to help people have lifelong guidelines for success.
SHOWNOTES
Christopher is a licensed therapist who specializes in working with adolescents and young adults. He is a business owner for Missimo Motivation focusing on mental training, fitness & athletic coaching, and public speaking.
R.A.M.P. - A system or a structure for helping people have lifelong guidelines.
It is a set of guidelines, like bumpers in bowling.
It is four pillars that keep you centered throughout your life.
It is a shared language for collective goals.
It is a solution-focused brief modality.
Foundational Elements of RAMP
Create a shared language.
Easy to engage in real-time.
Finances can fuel each pillar.
Goals are often unsuccessful because our efforts lack structure.
Four Pillars
R – Relationships (self, others, and the world).
A – Autonomy (independent action free from needing something or someone else and taking care of self).
M – Mastery (skillset for the desired goal).
P – Purpose (your vehicle set up for keeping actions flowing – value, passion purpose).
RAMP and Money
Money can fuel each pillar.
As each pillar grows, you grow closer to the goal.
“Ninety-four percent of respondents who say they have a “great” marriage discuss their money dreams with their spouse.”
Relationship - Self, Others, and the world
Self - Where I position myself, or how I think of myself
Self-esteem.
How you see yourself.
Influenced by parents & peers.
Others - Your relationship with friends, spouse, parents, etc.
World - a philosophy of how you see your place within the world.
Autonomy - seeking growth and knowledge yourself.
Am I doing my part?
Did I do my research and learn as much as I can before investing?
What are you doing to make things useful for your marriage, career, and every other area of your life?
“The overall pattern strongly suggests that greater individualism is consistently associated with more well-being. Wealth may influence well-being only via its effect on individualism.”
“Use autonomy to fuel building wealth. Your job is doing your job.”
Mastery - Developing a skillset for achieving Goals
Are you listening to Getting Money Right and growing your financial skillset?
Do you know the 4 major ways to invest?
Have you learned how to invest through vanguard on your own?
Do you have a BUDGET?
Mastery will cause you to get up early and work hard to reach your goals, but it should not be the “reason” and motivation for what you are doing.
Allowing mastery, a strong skillset, to motivate one person in the relationship to become the expert that behaves in a controlling way, will cause the other person in the relationship to lose their autonomy.
“Please don’t start with mastery! Make sure R A & P are at least foundationally set before you go diving into a bunch of materials learning a bunch of stuff.”
Purpose - Values & Passion
Listen to what makes you unique and naturally good at.
Don’t push away your natural gifts (introverted, outgoing, etc.)
Determine what value you bring; what is it about you that makes you special?
Where do I find value; what fulfills you? What makes you feel better about yourself?
Passion is the fuel that gives power to your values.
“You want these two (Values & Passion) to lead you to a city (Purpose). Not a state, which is too broad. Not a street, which is too specific.”
Motivation, like passion, is emotional. You’ll need more of it down the road.
What’s necessary is discipline which is the reason for what you are doing; your purpose.
When you’re living on purpose, increasing value to others, you can use the money you earn to continue increasing your purpose.
“I am spending on purpose for my purpose... Money is a tool; it’s tool to facilitate life.”
Resources
More about Chris - Missimo Motivation LLC - Mind-Muscle-Maximize
Jesus on Money by David Thompson - stewardshippastors.com
Budgeting and Debt Elimination Tools